Time for the Multiples and More Question of the Week!
Q: Do you think your kids personalities are related to their birth order? Describe your childrens' personalities, in birth order.
A: I guess I've never really thought about my kids' personalities in relation to their birth order. I mean, aren't they all technically first-borns? They were born only minutes apart and the order they came out in was merely by chance. The doctor had told us that even though they were already labeled A, B and C according to the positions they were laying in, they could have come out in any order, just depending on who they could grab first. It just so happened that they came out in ABC order.
I guess if I had to put them in birth order, Reece is my first-born. He is a happy-go-lucky kind of kid. Loves to laugh at everything, especially himself. He's a real people pleaser and thrives on praise and positive attention. He is very observant and pays close attention to detail, spending lots of time every day inspecting the small details on things...buttons, snaps, screws, zippers, etc.
He's very strong-willed and will not be coerced into doing anything he does not want to do. Reece loves to be around people and doesn't like to be alone. He is very affectionate and is a real cuddle bug.
Chase is my second-born, but only came a minute after Reece. Chase is very intense. When he's happy, he's HAPPY and when he's mad, he's real mad. Thankfully he's not mad very often and is usually a pretty smiley guy. He is very tense and rigid, not loosey-goosey at all. Chase is very independent and he doesn't like to be messed with; he prefers to do everything himself. He's not patient, especially when it comes to waiting for food. He LOVES music and will dance to just about anything. He loves to entertain and acts like a goofball to get a reaction out of people.
Kate is my last-born, arriving 4 minutes after Chase. She is very smart and picks things up quickly. She is very independent, but also loves to be around people. She is an attention-seeker and wants to be the center of everyone's attention. She is not shy in the slightest. She is extremely stubborn and wants things done her way. She is a very smiley, happy girl, unless things are not going her way (like when one of her brothers is playing with a toy that she wants or she doesn't like the food I have prepared). She is not afraid to let you know how she feels!
Q: Is your baby A any bolder or more dominant than B, C?
A: NO, Kate (Baby C) is definitely my most dominant child. I wonder if gender plays a role in that?
Q: Does your last-born reach milestones last as well?
A: Nope, Chase (Baby B) seems to reach most milestones last. I think it's because he is so stiff and rigid. I definitely agree with the statement that girls mature faster than boys though. Kate seems to reach milestones much faster than her brothers, which is funny since she was the last born, was the tiniest baby, and spent the longest time in the hospital.
Q: Are there any characteristics that you feel are somehow related to birth order?
A: I looked up birth order characteristics online and this is a synopsis of what I found...
First-borns desire control and they will typically become a compliant nurturer or a more aggressive mover and shaker. They are constantly trying to seek parental approval. They can be consumed with following the rules and are usually high achievers. They are responsible, natural leaders, but can also be bossy, know-it-alls.
The middle child will demonstrate the greatest variety of character traits, but they will usually be opposite of their older sibling. They are typically flexible and easy-going. They can usually read people well, they are peacemakers who see all sides of a situation, they are independent and inventive. Middle children often feel like their older sibling gets all the glory while their younger sibling escapes all discipline. Because the middle child feels that the world pays him less attention, he tends to be secretive; he does not openly share his thoughts or feelings.
Youngest children are usually very different from their older siblings. They don't have as much responsibility and are more carefree. They are also often driven to catch up with their older siblings and follow in their footsteps. Babies of the family are social and outgoing; they just want to have a good time. While lastborns may be charming, they also have the potential to be manipulative, spoiled or babied to the point of helplessness.
I don't really feel like any of these descriptions accurately fit any of my kids. While birth order can accurately describe some people's personalities, I don't think that is the case with multiples. Maybe I'm wrong, but I think my kids' personalities are inherent traits that were not affected by their birth order; they would be who they are regardless of what order they came into this world.
A: I guess I've never really thought about my kids' personalities in relation to their birth order. I mean, aren't they all technically first-borns? They were born only minutes apart and the order they came out in was merely by chance. The doctor had told us that even though they were already labeled A, B and C according to the positions they were laying in, they could have come out in any order, just depending on who they could grab first. It just so happened that they came out in ABC order.
I guess if I had to put them in birth order, Reece is my first-born. He is a happy-go-lucky kind of kid. Loves to laugh at everything, especially himself. He's a real people pleaser and thrives on praise and positive attention. He is very observant and pays close attention to detail, spending lots of time every day inspecting the small details on things...buttons, snaps, screws, zippers, etc.
He's very strong-willed and will not be coerced into doing anything he does not want to do. Reece loves to be around people and doesn't like to be alone. He is very affectionate and is a real cuddle bug.
Chase is my second-born, but only came a minute after Reece. Chase is very intense. When he's happy, he's HAPPY and when he's mad, he's real mad. Thankfully he's not mad very often and is usually a pretty smiley guy. He is very tense and rigid, not loosey-goosey at all. Chase is very independent and he doesn't like to be messed with; he prefers to do everything himself. He's not patient, especially when it comes to waiting for food. He LOVES music and will dance to just about anything. He loves to entertain and acts like a goofball to get a reaction out of people.
Kate is my last-born, arriving 4 minutes after Chase. She is very smart and picks things up quickly. She is very independent, but also loves to be around people. She is an attention-seeker and wants to be the center of everyone's attention. She is not shy in the slightest. She is extremely stubborn and wants things done her way. She is a very smiley, happy girl, unless things are not going her way (like when one of her brothers is playing with a toy that she wants or she doesn't like the food I have prepared). She is not afraid to let you know how she feels!
Q: Is your baby A any bolder or more dominant than B, C?A: NO, Kate (Baby C) is definitely my most dominant child. I wonder if gender plays a role in that?
Q: Does your last-born reach milestones last as well?
A: Nope, Chase (Baby B) seems to reach most milestones last. I think it's because he is so stiff and rigid. I definitely agree with the statement that girls mature faster than boys though. Kate seems to reach milestones much faster than her brothers, which is funny since she was the last born, was the tiniest baby, and spent the longest time in the hospital.
Q: Are there any characteristics that you feel are somehow related to birth order?
A: I looked up birth order characteristics online and this is a synopsis of what I found...
First-borns desire control and they will typically become a compliant nurturer or a more aggressive mover and shaker. They are constantly trying to seek parental approval. They can be consumed with following the rules and are usually high achievers. They are responsible, natural leaders, but can also be bossy, know-it-alls.
The middle child will demonstrate the greatest variety of character traits, but they will usually be opposite of their older sibling. They are typically flexible and easy-going. They can usually read people well, they are peacemakers who see all sides of a situation, they are independent and inventive. Middle children often feel like their older sibling gets all the glory while their younger sibling escapes all discipline. Because the middle child feels that the world pays him less attention, he tends to be secretive; he does not openly share his thoughts or feelings.
Youngest children are usually very different from their older siblings. They don't have as much responsibility and are more carefree. They are also often driven to catch up with their older siblings and follow in their footsteps. Babies of the family are social and outgoing; they just want to have a good time. While lastborns may be charming, they also have the potential to be manipulative, spoiled or babied to the point of helplessness.
I don't really feel like any of these descriptions accurately fit any of my kids. While birth order can accurately describe some people's personalities, I don't think that is the case with multiples. Maybe I'm wrong, but I think my kids' personalities are inherent traits that were not affected by their birth order; they would be who they are regardless of what order they came into this world.
2 comments:
Very interesting summary. You know your babies so well - a precious gift to your children in future years when they want to know 'what was I like?' It will also be fun for other grown-up observers to see which character traits continue and those that are 'just for a while'. Loved the pictures of these gorgeous little faces!
I'm with you. I don't have an older child and younger child. I have two first-borns. It's nice to know that I'm not alone in that perspective, because people look at me like I'm nuts when they ask who is older and I respond, "They're the same age. We've never made a big deal about birth order."
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