So I know triplets aren't that common and people are very curious, but the multitude of questions/comments I get are often insensitive, invasive, and downright rude. Here are some of my favorites (and I get most of these on a daily basis from complete strangers)...
~Are they natural or IVF? Actually it was neither. And why is how my children were conceived any of your business? I would never dream of asking a mother how she conceived her children; that is a very personal matter. And what do you mean 'are they natural?' They're not supernatural!
~Were you surprised when you found out you were having triplets? Duh.
~I would drive my car off a bridge if I found out I was having triplets! Well I'm glad I'm having them and not you then!
~Your hospital bill is going to be so expensive when this is all over! Thank you for reminding me of that. As if I don't have enough to worry about already and it's not like I really have a choice in the matter.
~You have no idea how hard it's going to be when the babies come home (and other variations of this comment). Believe me, I have no delusions about how hard it's going to be, but Jacob and I are actually excited about it and see it as a huge blessing.
~It must be nice to get to lay around all day and relax. Enjoy it while you can. Yeah, it's really nice to be confined to a bed, stuck in a hospital, and stripped of your independence and all privacy. It's especially nice to get poked and prodded all day and have nurses bothering you at all hours of the day and night. It is NOT relaxing being in the hospital!
~You are so small; you don't look like you are carrying triplets! I am very sensitive about this one. It makes me feel like people are calling me a bad mother and judging my size. I am extremely worried about the size of my babies, but am doing everything I can to gain weight. It does not help when people constantly comment about my size.
I know people probably have good intentions, but honestly some people just do not think before they open their mouths!
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It is amazing, isn't it? I remember all too well. If people could hear themselves......
And by the way, I think you look great and are doing a FAB job! Good seeing you yesterday. Take good care! Dauri
OH, I remember this so well! :( My favorite was "Were you PLANNING this pregnancy?" from a parent I barely knew. But I did get "Are you sure there's only one in there??" How totally insensitive!!!
I'm sorry you are getting these comments! :(
Rest up as much as you can and push this negativity far away!
I hope we get to see you soon!
People probably feel awkward and are not sure what to say. People say stupid things all the time.It's good that you can use this medium to let out your frustrations.
I hope you are doing well. I enjoy your blog and all the updates on your three little blessings. Take care of yourself! Jodi
Erin, your mom and I had such a nice visit Saturday, thank-you. I only wish there was more that her and I could do for you, maybe trade places for a while???
After checking in on your blog this morning I feel bad and cannot believe some of the blog comments or questions you have recieved and all I can say is; "You Go Girl!" per firing back at them.
For everyone who knows and loves both you and Jake understand it is because of the love, joy, and happiness (along with all your prayers) you share for one another is why God has asked both of you to bring your/his children into this world. And your mom and I (and your family) cannot imagine two more loving, beautiful and supportive parents on earth than you and Jake to be provided this important responsibility. And very soon now, your and Jakes three beautiful children will bless us all as they make their grand entrance in to this world. And once here, they will change your & everyone lives in such a beautiful/wonderful way one can only dream & imagine its beauty until they arrive and begin to share their love and happiness for the life you have given them.
Lastly, please let us know if you need anything and know we love you and are so very proud of the strength you have day-in and day-out.
Love Gran-Gramp Aries
you are so much more polite than I would be, im proud of you for that. But if you ever need me to Ill organize things for you. :)
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